Michelle Triola (formerly Marvin): Once burned but twice foolish?
Posted By Denise Noe On May 12, 2008 @ 7:23 pm In Analysis, Culture, Entertainment, Families, Family, Feminism, Mating, Marriage & Divorce, Media, Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex and Metropolis, Society, Vox Populi | 2 Comments
The Michelle Triola Marvin 1977 palimony suit against star Lee Marvin appeared to exemplify two things: 1) The way so many people in contemporary American have abandoned a recorded marriage for the informality of cohabitation and 2) The inferiority of cohabitation to marriage.
Although Michelle Triola Marvin had changed her last name to that of the actor, the couple had lived together for years without marrying.
Like many other people of the era, MTM bought the argument that “marriage is a piece of paper” and believed that she didn’t need it. Of course, a birth certificate, a social security card, a driver’s license, an identification card (for those like myself who don’t drive), any kind of certificate or degree, and cash itself are also pieces of paper.
When Lee and Michelle met, he was a wealthy star and Michelle was a singer who supported herself but was far from either rich or famous. During the relationship, she abandoned singing for fulltime homemaking.
For a couple of years after their break-up, Lee Marvin sent her monthly checks of support, although he was under no legal obligation to do so. Then he decided to cut off the checks. At that point, she decided to sue for community property, arguing that it was owed to her despite the lack of a “piece of paper” since she had acted as a de facto wife. It became famous as the “palimony” lawsuit.
I recall a conversation about the case between two young men at the college I attended at the time it was making headlines. One commented, “What she’s asking for is a divorce and they never were married.” The other guy said, “There are two ways of looking at this thing. One is that it demeans the institution of marriage. But the other is that it might let these people who live together know that they’re not going to get away with anything.”
Michelle Triola Marvin lost the case. The judge ruled that she was not entitled to community property. However, the judge ordered Lee Marvin to pay a relatively small amount to her so she could “rehabilitate” herself for the paid labor market but even that was overturned on appeal.
Michelle Triola (she would leave off the “Marvin”) appeared to have learned the hard way that a legal, recorded marriage is superior to cohabitation. “If a man want to leave a toothbrush at my house, he can damn well marry me,” she commented.
So what is her current living situation? She is cohabiting with actor Dick Van Dyke and has been for years! Apparently she has eaten the words quote above. I cannot help but wonder why she has not lived them instead.
Michelle and Dick – June is coming up and it’s the month for weddings!
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Tags: Cohabitation, Marriage Strike, Palimony
